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April 14th, 2006

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It's late, and I should really be in bed trying to get some sleep, but sometimes you just can't.

I have been singing the praises of my doctor to anyone who will listen, and sometimes to some who won't. Well, today, a friend of mine, who works for a law firm, decided to snoop around in the Georgia doctor's database and find out my doctor's record. Seems my doctor has some things in her past that I'm sure she's not proud of (as well as a couple of things that she should be VERY proud of), but which have nothing to do with the care that she's provided to me. I know this, because said friend decided to send me a link to the page, and foolishly I clicked on it.

To be blunt, I'm very upset. Not at my doctor, mind you; I have a greater respect and love for my doctor, who has worked a miracle in my life and who has me on the road to good health where others have failed. My doctor's past was none of my business, and certainly none of my friend's, who doesn't even go to my doctor. No, I'm furious at this friend. It was none of this person's business to go snooping around about my doctor, it was certainly none of this person's business to "share" this information with me, particularly since this person obtained the information in a semi-official capacity, using the resources of the law firm to check up on my doctor, then sharing the results with me without my asking for anything.

Mary has asked me not to say anything, but at the very least, this is gossip, and at the very worst, it's malfeasance and the law firm could probably be sued for malpractice. I guess I'll have to keep it quiet, but I just wanted to get this off my chest.
 
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From:cadona
Date:April 13th, 2006 11:17 pm (UTC)
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Yes, you should be in bed sleeping. And so should I.

From what you have written about your doctor I feel she would say this to you. How you react is your choice. While your friend did something you feel was disrespectful and certainly does not deserve your respect a negative reaction is harmful to you. Examine the hurt, process it, then let it go. Holding on to it is far more harmful than this persons thoughtless act.

Geez, now I am going to go over to my journal and follow my advice.

I know you have come far, you have much to be proud of and much to be thankful for.

Peace out.
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From:john_holton
Date:April 14th, 2006 07:11 am (UTC)
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As always, you're the voice of reason here. You're absolutely right. I have a much larger complaint about the health care professionals that did nothing for me for four years than I do about my current doctor, who, as far as I'm concerned, hung the moon. I'm going to let it drop with this friend; if it comes up again, I will be quite forthright in sharing my feelings.
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From:magnetox1
Date:April 14th, 2006 03:36 am (UTC)
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well, I sort of have to play devil's advocate here. At least
now you know there ISN'T anything you *should* be concerned
about; one cannot be too careful when it comes to doctors
in this day and age. It seems to me the friend was just looking
out for you. There have been too many cases where someone
did NOT check up and real problems resulted. You're lucky that
that is not the case here, but you never know. This doctor's
okay, as long as you're happy with them, but another one may
not be.

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From:john_holton
Date:April 14th, 2006 07:10 am (UTC)
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I see your point. Nevertheless, the negative information in the file had nothing to do with my doctor's current performance, which is exemplary. Furthermore, just because someone has access to a certain piece of information doesn't mean it should necessarily be shared. If my friend was looking for their own edification, it would have been one thing; that this friend chose to share this information with me is disturbing at best and quite possibly tortious at the worst.
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From:wingguy
Date:April 14th, 2006 06:02 am (UTC)
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It appears that you have seen this information, evaluated it objectively, and decided that it doesn't affect the confidence you have in the doctor. Good for you.

Now it's probably best just to drop it. What good can you do?
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From:john_holton
Date:April 14th, 2006 07:07 am (UTC)
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That seems to be the consensus. I put very little faith in databases of negative information about people. I have nothing more than my progress to go by. And my progress has been excellent. The woman has worked a miracle in my life.
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From:anderyn
Date:April 14th, 2006 06:34 am (UTC)
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I am sorry that this friend decided to look up your doctor and share the results with you -- perhaps they had heard something about the less-savory parts of your doctor's past (if it had to do with a lawsuit, for example...) and wanted to check to be sure you weren't being scammed. That is the charitable way of looking at it.

But you are the one who has to deal with her, and decide if she's doing her best for you -- and you have faith in her ability to get you healthy, and that's the important thing.
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From:john_holton
Date:April 14th, 2006 07:05 am (UTC)
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My doctor has had no lawsuits filed against her. My friend, who worked in the health care racket business for some time, was just being nosy, I think.
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From:anderyn
Date:April 14th, 2006 07:14 am (UTC)
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Well, in that case, I can't see why your friend want to do that -- I mean, if s/he had some information that might lead them to think you were being scammed or that your doctor wasn't on the up-and-up, then it would be a friendly thing to check it out, if s/he had access to the resources. Though even then I don't think I would share the doctor's information with you unless it proved that the doctor was a scam artist or had done something totally reprehensible. But if it was being nosy and sharing information that really isn't anyone's business... yargh!
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From:john_holton
Date:April 14th, 2006 09:08 am (UTC)
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I don't think losing 60 lbs is a scam. ;)

The thing that disturbs me is that this information wasn't really for public consumption; it was obtained by using a proprietary account that the general public doesn't have access to. I had no business knowing what was in the record, and my friend had no business sharing it.
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From:anderyn
Date:April 14th, 2006 09:25 am (UTC)
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Well, exactly!

IF (and this is a mighty big if) there was absolute proof that you were being taken for all of your money and/or the practice of the doctor was deadly or severely damaging to the health of other people (i.e., they had multiple and clear malpractice suits in which they were found in the wrong) THEN I might see where your friend might decide that your interests over-rode the privacy and whatnot and share that information with you, because it would be in your best interests.

But given that there was no over-riding REASON, it is just plain wrong. I mean, I don't really care to know that much about my doctor's personal life -- what I care about is "is he a good doctor? is he giving me effective care? can i trust him?" -- if someone knew something that would affect those issues, yes, I would want to know. But otherwise, he can f-- goats and post the pictures all over town and I would not care. (For the record, my doctor is a very good doctor. I like him. I trust him. And I'm not alleging anything about any goats!)
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From:anderyn
Date:April 14th, 2006 09:29 am (UTC)
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Oh. BTW, the guy in my user pic is an Australian actor named Jesse Spencer who plays the young doctor on House. Now House is a doctor you'd want to know everything about! He's definitely cool on tv, but not in real life. :-)
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From:john_holton
Date:April 14th, 2006 10:47 am (UTC)
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Mary and I are big fans of "House". We just recently learned that Jennifer Morrison, the very attractive young woman who plays Dr. Cameron, is a graduate of Loyola University Chicago, just like Mary and me. An even greater incentive to watch!
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From:john_holton
Date:April 14th, 2006 11:15 am (UTC)
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It's like I said. There was no good reason for this friend to share anything from any website about my doctor, since this friend is neither a patient nor anyone who has a direct concern with my health. Net-net, it was gossip.

I'm of the opinion that sometimes life experience is as good a teacher as anything. I think my doctor saw something in me that she had seen in herself, and was able to share from her experience. You can't get that out of a textbook.
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From:halfmoon_mollie
Date:April 14th, 2006 07:13 am (UTC)
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Why is your friend jealous?

And, you are right. YOu know, there are places you can call and report stuff like this, anonymously. Check with your local bar association.

But seriously, it sounds as though your friend is jealous. Either jealous of YOU because you have had such a wonderful thing happen to you and you are on the road to much better health, or jealous of the doctor because she has aided you along this path.

That's just my take.
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From:john_holton
Date:April 14th, 2006 09:09 am (UTC)
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Perhaps because my friend can't afford to go to this doctor (neither can I, but I can't afford a long-term disability even more), or perhaps because I'm succeeding in losing weight. I have no idea.
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From:anderyn
Date:April 14th, 2006 09:30 am (UTC)
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Well, if you can't afford to go to a doctor, you don't go around defaming her, either! Sheesh.

and I'm *happy* you've lost the weight. Even if I'm not doing it, I can applaud those who ARE. Hurrah for you.

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